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She is sure, she is true, she is straw is straw,
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She is true, is true, she is praise, pray, she
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is she is you.
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Hello, everyone, Welcome to today's Word of Mom Radio. Here
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on the Word of Mom Media Network. I'm your host,
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Dori Di Carlo, And you know we are here week
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after week, show after show, breaking those myths that morepreneurs
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and business women. You know that we're just dabbling in
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between bake sales and getting our nails done or not.
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We are smart, we are savvy, and we are sharing
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the wisdom of women in business and in life. And
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I'm looking forward to bringing today's guest into the show.
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You know I love sharing fellow podcasters. Nicole Etneiras is
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the visionary founder of nick niheris holistic lifestyle, where she
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empowers individuals to embark on a soul led transformation towards
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deep healing, purpose and fulfillment. With a foundation as a
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chartered accountant and a track record of career success, by
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the age of twenty eight, Nick's journey took a profound
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turn when she realized the true wealth begins within when
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the heart, mind, and soul are fully alioned. Following a
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powerful personal rebirth. After a difficult divorce and corporate burnout,
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Nick experienced firsthand the life changing impact of rapid Transformational
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therapy RTT. This became the catalyst for developing her own
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signature method, the Worthy, Authentic, and Abundant Coaching Framework, an
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eleven step journey designed to help clients release limitations, awaken
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their inner truth, and embody their most empowered cells. Through
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her holistic coaching practice, Nick blends subconscious healing, spiritual insight,
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and strategic life design to help there's reclaim their work,
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activate their light, and curate a life of happy wealth.
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She also shares raw, honest conversations on the Your Worthless podcast,
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guiding listeners through the real work of self worth, emotional recovery,
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and conscious transformation. Nick's work is rooted in the belief
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that you are already enough and her mission is to
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walk with you as you remember it. What a great mission. So,
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with all that being said, Nick, welcome to Word of
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Mom Radio.
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Oh my gosh, well Dory, thank you so much for
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having me in for that introduction. Having that, you know,
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set up loud by a third party makes you feel like, oh,
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did I actually do all of those things right?
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No?
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Thank you.
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It's interesting to hear. It's like, oh, yeah, you forget.
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So I would love for you to take us on
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your journey where it has led. You tell people to
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remember who they really are.
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Mm.
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Well that has to start too from where I grew
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up and how I grew up. So I grew up
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in the far side of the world, the other side
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of the world from the States, which is the east
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side Malaysia, all the way in Southeast Asia, and grew
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up there with a father who always had this thing
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and told us that knowledge is key. Knowledge is the
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key to changing your life. And so, as all parents,
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what he envisioned, both my sister and I were, you know,
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us going to school, getting those grades, getting a good
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paying job, and so get the car, get the house
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settled out, and get married and off we go in
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a merry way.
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And I bought into the narrative. I thought that was
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my version of success. So I sort of not sort of.
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I pre planned my life up until the age of thirty.
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I thought, by thirty, everything is going to go, you know,
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smooth sailing. I'm going to get all the job, the car,
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and the husband and the kids. Only to find out
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that you know, by thirty, I had to restart everything again.
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So fast forward.
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I've always been this person who always wanted to see
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or always wanted to seek that external validation to prove
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that I'm worthy of something. Now it's a double edged
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sword because well, it pushes me to my potential, towards
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my potential, but at the same time I don't realize,
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or I fail to realize, that I'm actually as I'm
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worthy as I am the fact that I'm already here
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on earth already.
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Prove that I take up space, that I.
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Matter, that I'm a matter, and therefore I matter. And
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by the age of at the age of twenty eight,
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twenty nine, so I met my then my ex husband
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twenty six. So okay, back, let us backtrack a bit.
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So at seventeen I said, okay, I got the grade.
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So I was the best student among the best students.
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And I started very at a very young age working.
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I wanted to get my hands on in the corporate world.
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At nineteen, I was really working as an account assistant,
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but at the same time fulfilling my requirements to become
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a charged accountant.
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So by twenty set so that's like what.
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Seventy eight years of me, you know, accumulating all of
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my working experience. So I said to myself, Okay, the
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work is going well, I'm getting the paycheck that I
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want to, so it's time to seek for love. So
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off I went, and I remember praying to God, Okay,
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the first the next person, I remember, I broke up
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with my I know this may be too much of
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an information, but I like to give you context for
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our listeners.
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So I broke up with.
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My first boyfriend back in twenty fourteen, and then a
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year later I met my ex husband, and I remember
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praying to God, whoever the next person is going to
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come my.
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Way, is the one that I'm going to marry.
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And this person, he was everything against what my parents
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wanted me to be with, to at least to you know,
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to end up with, to be unionized with.
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We became close very very quickly, and in hindsight, I'd
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say it's twenty twenty. It's because we both of us
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were really damaged people, and we trauma bonded and so
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we got super attached. And we thought that I was
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low And I remember saying this to myself when he
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even though there were red flags I had friends who
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actually sat me down and asked me several times leading
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up to the wedding day and say, Nick, are you
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sure you are? You look like you're the last person
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among you know, our group of friends to get married.
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And no, you know, like this is it?
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Because I was stubborn as well i am still so
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and fast forward, we got went ahead with the wedding,
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and then something there were things that fell apart. We
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weren't see eye to eye during the first year already
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simply because we didn't actually spend time to get to
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know each other.
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Now, I know there are.
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Couples out there who actually met, you know, just once
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and say okay, at that instance they know he or
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she is the one. But for us, because we got
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together on a very damage or broken and you know,
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the intention wasn't right, and so things unraveled within So
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within two years we decided to you know, part ways.
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And then I said to myself, that was the point.
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Where is that?
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That was the first time, all this time when I
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sent my you know, my sight on something, I'd be
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able to get them, especially in school and career, but
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in love that I started to doubt my worthiness because
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how could how could this happen to me, the person
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that I devoted myself with, or I was questioning or
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I was blaming the universe?
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Why did you let that happen?
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Again, it was my own choosing, It was my own
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free will. So at the time, I made the decision
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based on the parameters or the yeah, the knowledge that
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I have.
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So I took that leap, and so I.
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Changed my focus to my work. After the whole thing
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happened in twenty nineteen, I didn't process the loss of
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the relationship and I focused solely on my work and
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then COVID happened. That was the first time I had
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to sit by myself after being in a relationship with
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at least, you know, with somebody for the past you know,
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nine years, And that was when I started questioning who
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I was, what is my purpose here on earth, and
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what am I here to do exactly? So I went
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into this deep rabbit hole of learning about different philosophies
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and I got to know one of the modalities, which
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is rapid transformational therapy. So it's a combination of a
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few different modalities. And why it's so interesting because it
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goes straight to your subconscious reprogramming. Why subconscious because ninety
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five percent of our actions are controlled by our subconscious mind.
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Five percent is only conscious me talking is five percent.
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But what I think about right now and row morning,
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most of it are from.
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The day before.
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So if I don't change it, if I continued, what
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if I feel, if I continue to feel that I'm unworthy,
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it's most likely stemming from my childhood or an event
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that happened.
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And so fast forward.
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In twenty twenty was the start of me shudding my
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old self, I would say, my own spiritual awakening in
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twenty twenty three. So I had in twenty twenty one,
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I had my copper burnout with a very prestigious organization.
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Still very thankful that I was there, but because.
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I did not know, I didn't have my my principles
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or my values were you know, all over the place,
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and I had my burnout, I needed to take sabbatical,
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And I said, okay, remember praying God still, you know,
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he gave me his granted me his graces and set
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me up with a job. But I knew when I
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once I got into the job, I knew that I
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was never going to stay that long. And so that
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began my probationary. I would say incubation period to me
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transitioning out to what I'm doing right now. So in
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twenty twenty one, I joined a new company. Twenty twenty three,
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I remember sitting at a meeting room where my projects
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or my recommendations were getting a lot of pushback from
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my management, and I said, you know what, I'm would
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take this as a sign and I'm going to dive
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deep as to what in the area of how does
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the human mine work, like, how does it work the
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human psyche. So I went and got myself certified twenty
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twenty three because I wanted to see because I was
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at the verge of breaking down again. I wasn't clinically depressed.
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I wasn't cleinically diagnosed as depressed, but I knew that
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I needed help. So I went and sought for help
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and found out about this modality rapid transformational therapy. And
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I said to myself, Okay, I cannot be the only
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person in the world who's experiencing this heaviness this, Why
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am I experiencing this blow after blow after blow?
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So I went and I said, okay, I wanted to
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help people.
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The intention was right.
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I wanted to help people myself.
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But at the same time, I want to help people
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navigate through their relationship or pivoting away from their career.
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But I said, at the time my self work was
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really battered after the divorce and the burnout from my work.
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I said, why should people listen to what I have
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to say when I don't have the confidence myself. I
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cannot convince me. So I said, okay, I needed to
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keep myself. I need to keep level headed. Let me
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talk to some people. That's when I started my podcast
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and I name it You're worthless, because that was a
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narrative I said to myself for the longest time, past forward.
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Here I am.
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There were some I would say, certain depicitous events that happened.
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I got laid off last year, and that's when the
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universe pushed me. You know what, quit excuse my language,
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playing around, digging around.
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And get on with it.
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So here I am talking to you, Dory.
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It's amazing how the journey takes us to different places
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that we never thought we'd go. And the RTT seemed
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to be really influential for you.
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Yes it is, because so coming back to the whole
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idea promise of subconscious reprogramming.
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I needed to really get.
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The root caust as to why I felt that I
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needed to settle Number one with the person of my
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choice at the time. Number two my job. I remember
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for that in terms of the career, I had one
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person told me I wouldn't even show what you did
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here to any CEOs. And I was a manager at
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the time, and that was a blow to.
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My self esteem.
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I felt like it was personal, even though maybe right
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now you know people do that because it's their own projection.
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But when I when I looked at it again, it.
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Is me tying myself worth to that validation that people
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externally say to me. And so I went into I
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got myself into rapid transformation therapy and I as part
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of the requirements to graduate, I needed to speak to
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at least ten or fifteen people students.
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So I went and tried to basically pick out certain
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areas and I want to work on. So in terms
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of money, why an example, as a kid, mother always
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told me. My mom always told me, Okay, money doesn't
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row in trees. We don't have money to buy that.
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And I took it upon myself that, oh, I never
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wanted to be in this situation again, and so I
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need to make a lot of money, even though it's
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at the expense of my own health, my own mental health,
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and my relationship. So that was the connection I made
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and I was number one people pleasing because I wanted
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to show that Nick is never Nick is always this
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very poised, elegant lady that's always has got her shit
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under as you know, in true you know it's not.
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I'm human, and I would and I remember Dorry when
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I was trying. I tried, you know, terror reading divination tool.
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said to me.
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I asked him, so after.
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This job, where am I going to end up? I said, Nick,
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doesn't really matter where you end up. The key thing
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here is that you need to love yourself, he said.
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He repeated that four times. I never knew what he meant.
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I thought he meant me taking myself out on dates,
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going to nail salon's, you know, hair appointment, YadA ya
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ya da, And then he said, no, you need to
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love yourself. And it took me four years to really
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understand what is it mean to love myself? And hypnosis
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transmission through therapy is the most powerful, at least for me.
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There are different modalities that will, you know, help other people.
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to why I felt not worthy right now, it was
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due to the fact that, oh it was my at
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the time, my boss or incompetence pushed it out on
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me and projected it on me, and I therefore equated
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that to my self worth. Once I understood that, I
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detach from that. Say, you know, even if I was,
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even if I were, I was supposed to be let
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go or moved away from this department, your self worth
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does not tied to what people think of you.
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It's what you think of yourself.
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On that note, think of what Nick just said about
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self work. We're going to take a quick break, say
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are talking with Nick Nieris about self work, and you know,
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it's an amazing thing. My mommy always said to me
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that you have to be your own best friend. You
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can't be friends with anybody else. You can't really truly
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be a friend if you're not a friend to yourself.
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And it's really true, and we talk about it on
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this show all the time. Self care is not selfish,
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and especially as moms, you are the nucleus of your family,
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whether you're married, a single mom, and a partner relationship,
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whatever it is, you are that nucleus. And if you
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are not rotating correctly on your your own access, everything
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else is going to bounce off you. Because you know what,
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your healing matters, your self worth matters. And it's amazing
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because the words that you tell yourself, think about it psychologically,
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they have proven if a plant isn't doing well and
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you talk well to the plant, you encourage the plant
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as you're watering it and things like that, it will grow.
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Imagine doing that to yourself, you know. So Nick, for you,
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let's talk about worthy, authentic, and abundant and that method
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that you have created, because it is so important to
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understand that you are worthy and being yourself is the
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most a wonderful thing you can give to this world,
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is honestly you. So let's talk about that.
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That's try it.
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And when you are yourself, you raise the collective, the
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consciousness of the collective as a whole, so worthy of
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that they can abundant framework. So the first part is
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actually worthiness. Now you're going to go back to as
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to why you don't feel worthy of the promotion of
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the man of your dreams of getting that loan that
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you wanted so badly for your business.
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There must be something, there's an issue there, So I
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go through. There's an eleven step journey.
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I'm not going to tell one by one, but holistically
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what it means is the havenosis part.
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We will go through the.
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First part of the framework, which is the worthiness. This
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is where we're going to go back to your root costs,
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your childhood.
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Trauma and why do you feel you're not lovable? Why
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do you feel that you're different?
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And say, an event comes up, a scene comes up
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during the session and oh my parents, you know they
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were nice to me and took my phone away when
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I was crying, And.
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What does that make you feel? Makes me feel abandoned
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and that must.
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Mean I'm not loved. So once you make the connection
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during the session with me, you'll slowly understand why are
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your current issues you know present? The next thing once
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you sort that out, there are four modules to that.
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Once you sort that out, as you're being you, being
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authentically you, what does it mean? I know it's an
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overused term, but there is this phrase everybody is born
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and original, but not everybody. I mean there's the thing
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is says, not everybody that is as a you know,
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some of them dies photocopies, right, So on that note,
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who you are here on earth is the reason why
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you are here on earth. So I'm going to make
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an example that relates to say, for example, it's somebody
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who is not very fortunate, right, But then you try
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so very hard to blend in with another group of
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people who you know have different privileges and whatnot, and
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the reason that makes you shine will be deemed if
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you go and associate with yourself with these people.
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Now, why is it so important? The universe will bring in.
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Lessons to you until you actually heed to their advice
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or their their path that you're meant to be on
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here on earth. So being authentic means taking up your
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space here on Earth wherever you are, and say to
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the world, hey, this is me. I am flawed, but
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I'm also miraculously beautiful in my own strength and in
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my own weaknesses. So there are also modules to let
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you understand and really feel how.
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Do you show up as yourself in the world.
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And the third part of it, dori is almost instantaneous
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result when you embody your worthiness and your iuthenticity when
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you exude the right level of frequency, the right frequency
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of your worth. Say you're a coach anybody right, and
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you being yourself regardless of the vanity metrics, your most
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abundant life is inevitable. Why because you're fulfilled in your heart,
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fulfilling your mind, you're fulfilling your soul. So the key
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when I say abundant here, it's not just mandetary terms,
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but it also means every aspect of your life is holistic.
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Imagine the wheel of life. It has to be around.
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Nikolette one point zero had her job, you know, at five,
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but her relationship one point five.
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So that's not holistic.
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Something is wrong somewhere. And also a bit of a note,
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It did have an effect on my health growing up.
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I had this hormonal imbalance and the last few years
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without any help of medication and really just tuning in
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doing somatic exercises, reading, meditation.
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And all those.
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Things healing, energy, healing, I've actually reversed that and now
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I'm back on track.
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In Yeah, you will feel the effect. It's you feel
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easily better, your relationships with other people are better, and
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you show up in your most the highest abundant self
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in the world.
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You know, I think a lot of success comes when
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we stop looking for external validations and we come to
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that inner piece that you have to be aligned with yourself.
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And there are so many things coming at us from
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so many different directions in today's world at a rapid place,
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and now more than ever, that inner alignment is so
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powerful because there's so much out there saying to us
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that we're not.
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I'm much older to hear this. I lived through.
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So much to watch women's rights being dialed back and
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all of a sudden, women having a question what we're
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doing and how we're going to do it and everything else.
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And again it's it is so important to because your
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own healing matters. You matter. Every one of us has
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our own unique imprint we are bringing to this world.
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So as we are wrapping up, Nick, what do you
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want to leave our listeners with? And how may they
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reach out to you?
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So I like to leave the listeners with three things.
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So number one is a question that I asked everybody. So,
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if something is something in during this conversation is stirred
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your soul and pull some strings you know in your heart,
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your heart strings, I want you to go and ask yourself,
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strip everything away from this vessel of yours and strip
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it to your bear.
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Strip your soul bear.
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Okay, like, take off all of your successes, your accolades,
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as well as your failures, as well as your obstacles
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in life, and ask yourself, ask your soul this question.
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How was I as a son, as a daughter, as
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a wife, as a father, as an uncle, as a
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boss to the people around me, or as an owner
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of a pet.
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Today, if you did a.
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Kind thing by calling them, having dinner with them, just
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visiting them, or feeding the straighthead on by the roadside,
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you're already fulfilling your purpose here on earth.
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You do not need to go and search for it externally.
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You've got to remember that that you matter, the fact
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that you have that you know ounce of kindness is
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a remembrance that you are one with the Creator, and
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you have that compassion and that love within yourself, and
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therefore you are radiating back outside to the world. And
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that's one now in terms of purposes when it comes
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to success and everything else, because once you align yourself
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with this, whatever that you do after that, it's going
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to be like a divine alignment. Not sa the fact
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that you come across this episode, maybe you've never heard
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a word of mom before, right, and that this is
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not a coincidence. There's something probably in this message for you.
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So the second part would be two quotes that I
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like to leave the listeners with. It's it's oxy moronic
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in some sense, but that's life. You know, you're gotta
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embrace the duality. So quote number one is fail fast,
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fail often, and fail forward.
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It's just number one. Quote number two.
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Nature is never in hurry, yet everything is accomplished. So
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remember too, you know, stop and smell the roses.
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Yes, how can people reach out to union?
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All right?
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My website is my hope virtually it's the Nick naras
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W Holisticlifestyle dot com. Everything's in there, my podcast, my
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media appearances, my testimonials, and my services. And also I've
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got free hypnosis audio for if you want to try out.
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It's an element of my coaching and it covers for
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issues that are plaguing most people today. Number one is
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how do you wire yourself to wealth? Number two deep
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uninterrupted sleep, Number three, managing your weight. Number four, how
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to overcome anxiety during public speaking in exchange for email.
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So and then you'll get my newsletters.
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All of Nix's links are going to be live on
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Board of Mom Radio. I encourage you to reach out.
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I personally love I go to sleep guided meditations playing,
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and I wake up in the morning and I'll pop
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one on. There's something about the hypnosis while you're sleeping,
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there is something very relaxing and enlightening, and I can't explain.
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You just wake up in a different place.
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That's right.
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While you're listening to things. You know you're subconscious. As
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you said earlier, you know ninety five percent of what
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we do is are subconscious at work and finding that
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inner alignment, finding that inner piece, it gives you such
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a different perspective on what is going on. So I
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so appreciate Nick you taking the time to come and
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share your journey with us here on Word of Mom Radio.
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Thank you so much.
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Now, thank you Dora for giving me the space and
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the opportunity to share this with your audience.
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It's been my veryrateful and again, all of Nick's links
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are gonna be live. Reach out and I thank you
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for being here. We're gonna close out with our fabulous
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theme song from Smith's Sisters and the Sunday Drivers, So
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till next time. This is Dory di Carlo saying, go
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out and create a marvelous you. Bye for now.
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is strong, she is true, she is true, she is
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braz bray, she is boul. She is you, she is you,
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she is you. She she is sure, she is sure,
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she is strong, she is strong, she is true, she
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