Dec. 5, 2025

Marianne Hickman on The Mompreneur Model with Dori DeCarlo

Marianne Hickman on The Mompreneur Model with Dori DeCarlo
Marianne Hickman on The Mompreneur Model with Dori DeCarlo
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Marianne Hickman on The Mompreneur Model with Dori DeCarlo

Marianne Hickman is an award-winning Speaker and Stage Facilitator with an ever-growing client list that includes award-winning speakers, entrepreneurs and CEOs.

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Season 13 The Mompreneur Model

Marianne Hickman is an international public speaker, and personal speaking mentor who specializes in inspiring business owners and coaches to monetize their message through appearing on stages . Marianne has been featured on over 2400 worldwide stages, focusing on enriching and cultivating the development of your story, message, and revenue.

Her life’s motto is to “Make good people crazy wealthy.”

Marianne was a single mother, who brought her family from food stamps to a multiple six-figure income. She is married to her best friend, Richard Hickman, and together, they are raising six children.

Join host Dori DeCarlo on The Mompreneur Model and connect with Marianne at MarianneHickman.com and on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Twitch and YouTube.

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She is sure, she is true, she is straw is strong,

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she is true, is true, she is Braise Bray, she

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is she is you.

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Hello, everyone, Welcome to today's Word of Mom Radio. Here

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on the Word of Mom Media Network. I'm your host,

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Dori Di Carlo. And you know we are here week

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after week, show after show, breaking those myths that morepreneurs

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and business women, especially those of us building our businesses

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from home, that we're just dabbling in between bake sales

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and getting our nails done. We're not. We are smart,

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we are savvy, and we are sharing the wisdom of

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women in business and in life. And you know, I

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love bringing fellow podcasters in and I'm looking forward to sharing.

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Today's guest, mary Anne Hickman is an international public speaker

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and personal speaking mentor who specializes in inspiring business owners

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and coaches to monetize their message through appearing on stage.

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Marianne has been featured in over twenty four hundred worldwide

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stages focusing on enriching and cultivating the development of your story,

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message and revenue. Her life's motto is to make good

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people crazy wealthy. Marianne's a single mother who brought her

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family from food stamps to a multiple six figure income.

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She's married to her best friend, Richard Hickman, and together

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they are raising six children and still in the thick

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of it.

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So that's done, right.

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I know right. Welcome to Word of Mom Radio.

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Marianne Dory, thank you for having me. I'm so excited

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for the women that are listening to this episode. I'm

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excited for what you're building. And if there's nothing else

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that you leave at this episode with, I want you

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to know that there are women like us out there

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cheering with you.

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Absolutely.

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You know.

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It's so funny. It's why I began Word of Mom Radio,

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so women like us building our businesses, raising our families.

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I was a single mom as well, and we needed

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to know that we're not alone. Because I don't know

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about you. I personally think women we're our worst enemy

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because so many women fall into that high school mentality

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of oh, I can't help you, what if you steal

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my boyfriend? I like you more than they like me. Well,

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let's face it, guys, Charlie doesn't care if you golf

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with Joe as long as you're giving him your business.

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They're not worried that you're going to like them more,

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and I do. I kind of think that that is

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why women have such a hard time promoting each other.

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And again why I started this show we're in our

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thirteenth season now, to give women a voice, because together

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we are so much stronger. So I would love for

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you to take us on your journey that has led

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you from being a public speaker to now teaching people

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how to do this.

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Well.

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It's interesting. I didn't think public speaking could be a

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career for the longest time. I have to give a

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tip of the hat to my seventh grade teacher, Missus Wilson,

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and gosh, I hope she's still around. I hope she's

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still I hope to reconnect with her one day because

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I owe her so much, and I owe so much

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to my mother, who always believed in me. When Missus

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Wilson and I were in school together, she encouraged me

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to join drama, which I did I loved it. And

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she also enjoy encouraged me to join choir in which

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I did and I loved it. And she always also

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encouraged me to join a speaking competition. And the thought

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of that it was so odd to me because I

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grew up in a house with lots of kids that

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were ten of us, and so I thought speaking competition

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meant argument, and I was like, why would you why

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would you want me.

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To do this?

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And so I did, and she she put me on

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that stage, she put me in front of a podium,

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and I wrote a speech. Now, I come from a

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background of a church who puts three to five year

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olds on stage. So when I've been speaking in front

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of groups of my peers and grown ups ever since

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I was little, little bitty, and my mom was helping

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me write these talks, and then it evolved and I

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feel like, oh my gosh, I feel if I could

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go back to myself at that age, I would say, Marianne,

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pay attention, pay attention to what's happening, Pay attention to

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what you're doing, because not only can this be a career,

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which was one of my primary desires as I became

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a young adult, is how do I create a career,

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how do I provide my family? But it can also

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more importantly change and save lives. I'll never forget the

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event that I was speaking out and I was in

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front of it. There were probably I think about five

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hundred people in the room and in the crowd. I

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saw this young man, he was probably fourteen fifteen, and

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when I was doing the exercise that was supposed to do,

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I had one of the audience members come up as

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a volunteer, and they didn't know what they were volunteering for,

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but I asked them to raise their hand. I come

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up to the front if they were willing to do

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an experiment with me. And this, I always look for

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the people in the audience who raise their hands slowly

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and late because they are willing but scared, and that

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makes the best person. If they raise their hand too fast,

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that's a spotlight person. If they're in it for them

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for the spotlight and for the limelight, not interested in that.

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I'm not gonna also volunteld people who don't raise their hand.

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And I'm sure as heck not gonna pick the person

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who the person next to them raised their hand for them.

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That's unwilling. We don't want to do that. So I

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called on this boy and I had him come up

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and I was doing a demonstration for the audience. This

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is an icebreaker that I do at events to get

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the audience to not be so stiff and siloed in

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their own experience. I want them to break down the

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walls and interact with each other. So I called this

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boy up and I said, I want to demonstrate to

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you this exercise, this game we're about to play, we're

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about to do. And I looked at this boy, and

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I looked at his eyes, and I said, the greatness

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I see in you. And then I proceeded to see

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I've never met him before. I said, told him, the

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greatness I see in you is this. And I just

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went with my gut and I went with my intuition,

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and then I had to go off stage. And then

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I had okay, audience, it's your turn.

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Go.

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Three months later, this mother came up to me and

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I'll never forget this. This mother came up to me

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and she said, Hi, you don't know me, but three

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months ago, you pulled my son out of the audience

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and onto the stage. And what we later found out

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was that he had a very specific note written that night,

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and if you're reading between the lines, you know exactly

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what I'm talking about. He had exit plans from the

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planet and he didn't carry them through. And when she

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introduced me to him again, his light was different, his

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energy was different. He was smiling more. His appearance was different.

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You could tell the self loathing had taken a few

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steps back, and so that moment really solidified it for me.

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It really meant that we never know who we're inspiring,

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we never know who we're blessing, we never know whose

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lives were changing. We do know that hurt people, hurt people,

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and we do know that helped people, help people, healed people,

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healed people, And so it became less of a career

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pursuit and more of a responsibility, like Victor Frankel says,

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or we have a responsibility with liberty. We have a

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responsibility to first raise ourselves up, pull ourselves out of it,

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and then reach down our hand and lift another. And

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I reflect on that day often every time we're in

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a microphone setting like this, every time in a microphone

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setting in front of other people, and every time I'm

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around my own kids, I think about that, and I

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think about what can be said that is kind and

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helpful and positive and inspiring that can lift somebody out

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of a dark place. May maybe they were almost at

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the point of no return, and we can change that

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by the words we say.

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I so agree with you. You know, my brother tease me.

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My little brother Frank says, you know, your day is

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never complete if you don't take a picture of a stranger.

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And I am that person. I will always see somebody.

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It's like, would you like me to take a picture

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of all of you? Or I'll be walking and somebody

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will say, hey, would you take a picture of us?

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I'll see somebody, and especially an older person dressed, and

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I will absolutely compliment them. And my brother, what is

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your problem saying, hey, you know what it is to

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get up and get dressed and put on your makeup.

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You're a guy.

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You throw on a T shirt, a Parry jeans and

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a baseball cap and you're out the door. And somebody,

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especially that age who has taking the time to do

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her makeup and her hair and her nails, why not

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tell her how good she looks?

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You know?

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Why not compliment somebody? You don't know what their day is,

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and you don't know if that compliment that one person

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taking notice. Just like you said, you just never know.

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And it's amazing. It's the oh no, of that really is.

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I saw this quote and it's been living. I gotta

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put it on a T shirt or something. It says,

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be a little kinder than necessary. And that hit me

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like a ton of bricks. It's not necessary to be kind.

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It's an extra step we take, and it it what

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it does. There's a law in physics. I'm a huge nerd,

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So there's a law in physics called the law of entropy,

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which basically means, without work, the state of energy, the

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state of matter, will fall, will degrade, will deteriorate with

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If a tree isn't doing work, it will fall down

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and disassemble. It requires work for the photosynthesis to occur.

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It requires work for the water to be brought up

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to the tree, and that's what sustains life. And without work,

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it will deteriorate. Without work, your marriage will deteriorate without work,

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Your relationship with your children will deteriorate. Without work, your

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business deteriorates, it falls apart. We have to be constantly

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without work. The laundry never gets done. It just that's

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the law the universe. And when we say be a

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little kinder than necessary, that's the effort, that's the energy,

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that's the quote unquote work. It doesn't feel like work.

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That's what we imbue into the stranger or the friend

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or the family member. Next to us to be a

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positive deposit for them. It may put water in their

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cup that was never there, and it may it may

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just make their cup overflow, so that their cup of

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love and happiness is flowing over so much that they'd

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love the next person because they can't hold it back anymore,

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they can't contain it anymore. That's the beauty.

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It's so amazing to me because as parents, it's our

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responsibility to teach our children the different little things and

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actions speak louder than words. They watch so much more

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than they listen. And remember my children's dad, like my

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kids would say, actually said, you know, mom never does

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anything that doesn't make her happy, and wow. Children's dad

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looked at them and goes, well, how can you tell

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she's always happy? And they were like, well, that kind

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of frees the point, you know, and it's true. I

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anything I do, I'm going to go for it. Cleaning

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the house, you know. I used to joke menial mom

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mondays when I you know, when my kids were growing up,

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because on the weekends, that wasn't my day to be

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able to go food shopping and stuff like that. I

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had baseball games, I had practiced, you know, three kids

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to show for all over the place. So and it's

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so funny because now that my kids are grown and gone,

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I'm a meani now menial mom. I translated that into

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word of Mom radio. This is my recording day and

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I will record anywhere between four and sometimes eight episodes

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on a Monday. I just go from morning tonight and

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that's my Mondays, and then the rest of the week

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I parcel out as I do. And it's the joy

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of being older.

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I don't have the nine to five have obligation. I

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don't have a family to raise. I'm not in this thick.

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I'm in the joyful part of it now. Yeah, let

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me rearrange things so I can take my grandkids to

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the park.

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Yeah, you know, I'm excited for that. I got to

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tell you, I'm grateful to be where I am and

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I look forward to that.

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Nobody prepares you for how much you love your grandkids.

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But you know, so funny because even in this let's

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talk about the balance illusion, Oh thank you talk about

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the balance in your life. I'm like, trust me, it's

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a juggling act.

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There's no balance involved. You're kidding me.

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One of my good friends, Trina she's a founder of

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a company called tech Moms, and she wrote a book

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that I was like, it's like you read my mind.

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It's like you like pensived with the magic wand all

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of these thoughts, and thank you for writing this book

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so I don't have to and this whole idea of balance.

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Here's why balance is a myth, and here's why if

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you chase it, you'll never be satisfied. Balance means that

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everything weighs the same all the time, and it doesn't.

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It changes, it evolves, it expands and contracts. Last night,

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for example, I had a conversation with my daughter. Now

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she's nineteen, she's a grown up. She still lives at home,

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totally prime. But we had a tough conversation last night

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and it went late into the night, It went for

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an hour that at that moment, my daughter and me,

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we had a relationship need. That was the biggest thing

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on my plate. That was the most important thing on

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my plate. It wasn't time for sleep, It wasn't time

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to have pillow talk with my husband. It wasn't time

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for business stuff. It was time for me to have

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a relationship talk with my daughter. That was the most

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important thing so I eschew the thought of balance because

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it is so impossible. What instead I have adopted is

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the word harmony. And this is something that goes in

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my life mission. This is what I chase. All of

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us have listened to music. We know music, we know

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music we love, we know music we dislike. And that's

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to your point, Dory, like you're probably only living in

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music that you like and music that you enjoy. We

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don't listen to music we don't like necessarily most of

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the time. If we're playing music. If you've ever played

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an instrument, or ever been to a symphony, and some

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note gets wrong, or the tempo gets misplaced, or the

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wrong instruments are playing at the wrong time, we notice

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and we're like, ooh, ooh, I'm not gonna do that.

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Or if the microphone screeches into the speakers, we don't like, ooh,

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it's out of harmony. It makes us cringe, it makes

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us do that. So when I say harmony, here's what

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I'm thinking. I'm the conductor of this symphony. I get

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to pick the music of this symphony. I get to

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pick the score and maybe even get to write my

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own music. And I'm standing in front of a hundred

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multi hundred piece orchestra. I've got a piano over here,

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I've got the obos over there, I've got the violins

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over here. I've got the drums over there. And last

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night it was time for a guitar solo. That was

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my daughter. In my time, the drums were quiet, the

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symbols weren't crashing, the piano was silent. Everyone was just

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waiting because that part of the music said, it's a

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drum solo right now, or a guitar solo right now.

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Nothing else gets to play. And then when I went

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to bed, the music, I put my baton down and

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it was time for a rest. And then this morning,

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right now, this here, my kids are all taken care of.

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They're good. I give them hugs and kisses out the doors.

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Some of them went to school, some of them went

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to work, and some of them are still sleeping. They're good.

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Those instruments are resting right now, this moment with you,

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this moment with people that are listening, This is the

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piece of music that's playing right now, and in a

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few minutes that will take a rest and then breakfast

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will play. So it's part of the music. It's all

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part of the music. And my mission statement, my personal

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mission statement, is that I live in the joy of

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my music. I live in the joy of my harmony,

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and when something isn't part of the harmony, then I

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get rid of that. Now, that's not to say that

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that aren't difficult parts. You and I both know music

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scores that have tension, that build, and there's music that

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is sad sometimes, and there's music that is mournful sometimes,

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and there's music that is tense sometimes, and that's part

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of the music that makes it not boring. The reason

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that we love Hans Zimmer so much is that he's

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able to compose this music. If you and if you

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don't know who Hans Zimmer is, you probably do and

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you don't know it because he's composed the musical scores

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for all of the movies that you love, and he

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writes music with mourning, with tension, with celebration. This piece

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of music, if you've ever watched How to Train Your Dragon,

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it's a big movie right now. That flight music when

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it builds and I get goosebumps just thinking about it,

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and then he finally locks in his prosthetic foot and

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he's able to fly with toothless. It just soars after

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all of this tension. So that's part of it. It's

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not that we're meant to eliminate tension and fear from

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our lives. It's leverage. It's leverage for the climax of

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the piece of music that you're listening to or that

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you're conducting.

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I love that. And on that note, we're going to

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And we're back here on Word of Mom Radio. We

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are speaking with Marianne Hickman, and I love what you

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said about harmon, I really do. And what a marvelous

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way to counteract trying to find quote unquote balance, because

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you're right, it gives equal weight to everything, and everything

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in life does not have equal weight. But the harmony

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is what matters. And it's so funny. I just read

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this article about the movie's Psycho and how Alfred Hitchcock

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got it snuck past the sensors. Was not having the

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music playing during the shower scene because that shower scene.

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What yeah, getting it past the sensors because if you

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remember the shower scene, you see a knife. It was

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actually Hershey's chocolate syrup is what they used for the

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blood because it Nick mimicked it well enough because it

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was black and white it was the sound of a

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knife going into a Melon's where the sound that you heard,

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but without the orchestration that did it got past the sensors,

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no kidding. Then they added the music after Sneaky Little Bugger. Yeah,

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you know what Alfred Hitchcock really, I mean, think about it.

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They actually created a word, you know, hitchcocky and thrillers.

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That man changed the genre of filmmaking and how to

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do it. But that music is everything. So I'm a performer,

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so I so relate to the harmony element and you

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know what, you are going to have dissonance, you are

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going to have tension. Those strings are going to vibrate

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at different times. But ultimately it is the music that

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we orchestrate for our lives that moves us along. I'm

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going to go back mom to mom, six kids, how

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are you integrating your kids with your business?

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You know, someone gave me this, and I have to

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I wish I could remember who it was because I

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owe them some gratitude, But they gave me this one

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question that really it took the tension. It resolved the

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ten of business versus motherhood because I wasn't always good

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at it. We always say how did you get good

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at something by being really bad at it at first.

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So someone gave me this question, and I hope it's

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a gift for someone who's listening. It's the question of

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going to your kids and saying, how would you like

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to help with the family business? What would you like

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to do? And I go to my daughter and say

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how would you like to help? And it took her

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a second because she's like, I've always felt like I

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was a versus, especially when they were little, little little.

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It was hang on, just a second, I need to

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go into my office and close the door and get

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that done. You're going to play or do whatever by

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yourself in the background while I do this. And that

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was a start. I'm not going to shame anybody that's

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doing that at all. But the next level up is

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how do you want to contribute? And my one daughter says,

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you know, I think I could run this soundboard. That

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sounds really cool to me when you do events or

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when you have podcasts. I think I could run this

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soundboard in the back of the room. I said, great,

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let's teach you how to do that. Other says, you know,

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I'd like to do the check in process for the events.

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I could get on the computer because I can. She

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does crochet for her business, so she's like, I could

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crochet in between people checking in and I was like, great,

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that's a twenty dollars an hour position, So come on

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over and asking just asking all of the kids, how

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do you well? I want to do the graphic design?

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Do you need a logo? I want to do this?

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How about we build websites together? And then I turn

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around and ask them how can I support your business?

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And for my one daughter who crochet, is that means

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going to market every other Saturday with her and we

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go to the market and we set up the booth

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and we do the tent together. So's it's this, It's this.

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I don't like calling it a transactional, but it's a

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win win Stephen Covey talks about win win. It's a

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win win situation of how can I help you and

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how can you help me? And when I started asking that,

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it just it made us peers in a way. And

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I don't think that parents and children are always meant

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to be peers, but when you can create a common ground,

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because guess what we're all figuring this day out. None

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of us have ever done this day before. September fifteenth,

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twenty twenty five. We are all new here, none of

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us with zero XP to start the day right. And

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I think about that with my kids, especially when we're attention.

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I've never done this day before. I tell my nineteen

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year old all that I've never parented a nineteen year

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old before. She's my oldest, and even when my next

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one turns nineteen, I've never parented her as a nineteen

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year old. So when we can admit that we are

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both in the learning process, and then we can admit

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that we both need help, and then we can elevate

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each other by both giving and receiving help to one another.

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That has been one of the most powerful tools, because

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then it translates to them doing it with all their

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friends and so forth. That's one of the best ways

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to find harmonies, is how can we work together and

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what can I do to serve you?

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Isn't it amazing when your kids get involved? It is

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so much fun. I had at different points my three

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kids did different things with me with my other business.

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And my oldest son had lost his job and had

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just moved and I was down in Florida working and

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he called me up and was just in this panic

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and I said, well, you know what, right now, I'm

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actually looking for somebody who can do this, this, this,

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this and this for me. So if you would be interested,

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I'm happy to hire you. And I was like, you

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know what, I'll give you six months if you want

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to stay, You're more than welcome. If you've any wound

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up getting into the Union. I mean, you know, but

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it gave him that little bit of a cushion. My

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daughter is the graphic artist and you know, doing her

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photography and stuff, and she was traveling the country. I said,

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how about I give you X amount a month and

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everywhere you oh, take our clear bags and photograph them

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all over the place, you know, at the beach, mountains,

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here there, camping, hiking, and you know, I wound up

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with a few hundred pictures that I can repurpose over

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and over and over and over and over and over

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and over again. And it was so much fun. And

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then my middle son was the one, mom, I'll take

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the rides with you and you have to go pick

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stuff up, you know, and he'd come with me state

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to state, and you know, I had to go to Philadelphia.

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I said, you know, you're dying for Philly cheese steaks.

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What do you think He's like, come in?

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You know?

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So it is. It is as a mompreneur, you know.

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And I've been calling myself that since nineteen ninety four,

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and I've been doing this since last century. It started

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with the computer. My one time I was working on

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something and I went it was gone. Oh and my son,

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who was ten at the time, He's like, excuse me, mommy,

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I sit down place. I said, sure, and I hear

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click click, click, click, poo poop, and there it was.

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He goes, Now, I've saved it for you here, aged

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for you here too, because they grew up with this stuff,

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you know, I'm learning it. So it is. It is

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just such a fun thing when you give your kids

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that opportunity, and I like you asking what they would

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want to do. So, as we're bringing this to a

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clothes what do you want to share with that mom

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who's listening right now, Marianne, And how can she reach

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out to you?

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Well, gosh, I got to tell your doory. My message

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has changed in the last four days. It really has.

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There's a lot of fluff that I didn't realize was

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fluff that I was bringing to the table a lot

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of things that were fun but unimportant, a lot of

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things that were they're just fat that needs to be trimmed.

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And in the last four days I have thought so

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passionately about what it means to carry the flag, what

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it means to pick up your mic, what it means

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to communicate. So I've taken a mission onto this phrase

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that says pick up the mic, and that means say something.

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When you're with your children, say the thing, have the

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hard discussions, talk to them, Listen to them. When you

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feel compelled to go live on social media, just do it.

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I don't care if you have ten followers. I don't

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care if you have one follower. I don't care if

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you have a thousand followers. But it is This comes

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from a moment when I put on my first event

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and nobody showed up. But I delivered my keynote anyway,

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because I was never going to be the reason that

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my message didn't get out there and help somebody. And

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I don't want that for anyone. Any mother that's listening,

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don't be the reason your message doesn't get out there.

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Pick up the mic and say the thing, have the discussion,

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speak the words be a little kinder than necessary. That's

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what I hope that you will do. And if you

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want to chat with me, if you want to be

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closer to me, if if we like each other, or

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even if you haven't want to have a discussion you

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disagree with me, I'm open to that. Text me. I'll

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give it everyone my number. It's eight oh one, five

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oh nine five four nine five, because my mission is

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to put my microphone up to the messages that matter.

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I love what you just said because words do matter,

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and words can hit harder than a fist or words

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can provide comfort and enlightenment and encouragement and empowerment. And

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as women, we can stand on top of that mountain

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and shout and sing and whatever. But when we do

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it together, when we bring our voices together, that harmony thathire.

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We become of encouragement and empowerment and raising our children

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to see, to actually see what is going on around there,

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to be an active participant in their own life, because

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too often, especially as we get older, we kind of

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put it in neutral. And this is not a time

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to be in.

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Neutral, No, you know, definitely not.

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So I really encourage you to reach out to Marianne,

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we didn't even have a chance to talk about our podcast.

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Tell me about your podcast really quick. It's gonna run

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over who we don't care well.

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I have a podcast called The marian Hickman Show, and

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this is where we listen to the stories of people.

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You know.

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So I have guests on that, a brand new that

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I've never podcasted before. I just had a guest on

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We broadcast the episode yesterday from a man who traveled

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all over the world, and his words about understanding just

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hit so timely for me. So my podcast is all

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about putting my microphone up to the people whose messages

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I want to hear. I'm curious about people. So you'll

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hear some themes about getting on stage and some taxics

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and techniques for that, and how to take the stage

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and how to take the mics. But most importantly, you're

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going to hear the stories of the people who I

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believe are making a difference, whether they just started or

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whether they have decades of experience. That's what my show

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is all about.

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I love it. All of Mary's links are going to

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be live on wordommradio dot com. I encourage you to

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reach out take a listen to her podcast and know

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that each one of us makes a difference in our

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own way. We really do, and together we're so unstoppable.

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So Mirianne, thank you so much for taking the time

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to come and share your journey with us here on

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Word of Mom Radio today.

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Thank you, Dory. Let's go, ladies right.

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On, and for all of you tuning in, thanks for listening.

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We're going to close out with our fabulous theme song

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from Smith's Sisters and the Sunday Drivers. So till next time,

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This is Dori di Carlo saying, go out and create

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a marvelous you. Bye for now.

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She is sure, she is sure, she is strong, she

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is straw, she is true, she is true, she is brave, brave,

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she is you, is you, she is you. She is sure,

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she is sure, she is strong, is strong, she is true.

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She is true.

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She is brave, she is bold, she is she is you,

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She is you. She is sure of herself. Yes, she

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takes care of his powerful and strong. Yes she knows

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who she is has integrity, woman, strong and true. You

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know her by name. See this woman is you. She

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is sure, she is strong, he is strong, she is true,

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is true, she is braise, she is bold, she is,

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she is you. She is you, she is she is sure,

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she is strong, is strong, she is true, is true,

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she is brave, she is bold, she is she is you.

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She is she is adds value and hope. Has proved

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to be brave. See it's never too late, never time

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to behave reaching for dreams doesn't matter of the age.

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Believes in herself, hungleash from her cage. She is sure,

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she is sure, she is strong, is strong, she is true, true,

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she is brave, she is bold, she is you, she

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is she is sure, she is strong, she is strong,

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she is true, is true, she is brave, brave, she

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is she is you.
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Marianne Hickman

Speaker, Mom

Marianne Hickman is an international public speaker, and personal speaking mentor who specializes in inspiring business owners and coaches to monetize their message through appearing on stages .
Marianne has been featured on over 2400 worldwide stages, focusing on enriching and cultivating the development of your story, message, and revenue. Her life’s motto is to “Make good people crazy wealthy.”
Marianne was a single mother, who brought her family from food stamps to a multiple six-figure income. She is married to her best friend, Richard Hickman, and together, they are raising six children.